The Other Man

8 questions

Should I confront the other man?

No, confronting the other man is rarely wise and often makes things worse. Your real issue isn't with him—it's with your wife's choices and your marri...

Should I contact the other man's wife?

The decision to contact the other man's wife is complex and shouldn't be made impulsively. While she deserves to know the truth about her marriage, yo...

Should I expose the affair publicly?

Public exposure of an affair should be approached with extreme caution and biblical wisdom. While the betrayed spouse's pain and desire for justice ar...

How do I compete with the affair partner?

Stop. Don't compete with the affair partner - you'll lose every time. Here's the hard truth: you're not fighting for your spouse's attention against a...

Why does she prefer him to me?

She doesn't prefer him because he's better than you - she's drawn to him because he's meeting needs that went unmet in your [marriage](/answers/becomi...

He's not even as good as me — why him?

This question hits every [betrayed husband](/answers/after-the-affair/what-is-comparison-injury-and-how-do-i-manage-it) like a freight train, and it's...

She says he 'gets' her — what does that mean?

When she says another man 'gets' her, she's describing an [emotional connection](/answers/after-the-affair/did-my-avoidance-push-her-toward-someone-el...

Will she leave me for him?

The honest answer is: maybe. But that's not the whole story, and it's certainly not the end of your story. While some women do leave their marriages f...