How do I evaluate his program quality?

When your husband enters any kind of improvement or recovery program, you need concrete ways to assess whether it's legitimate and effective. This isn't about being controlling - it's about being wise and protecting your marriage's future.

Professional Standards Matter Legitimate programs have qualified facilitators with proper credentials, licensing, and training. They should be transparent about their methodology and willing to explain their approach. Quality programs are often affiliated with recognized organizations and follow evidence-based practices.

Structure and Accountability Effective programs have clear structure with regular meetings, assignments, and accountability measures. They require active participation, not passive attendance. Look for programs that include peer support, mentoring, or group dynamics - transformation rarely happens in isolation.

Measurable Progress Quality programs define success clearly and provide ways to measure progress. They set realistic timelines and milestones. Be wary of programs promising quick fixes or dramatic changes without ongoing work.

Transparency with Spouses Reputable programs understand that marriage issues affect both partners. They should welcome appropriate spousal involvement, provide updates on progress (with your husband's consent), and offer resources for you as well. Programs that operate in complete secrecy or discourage your involvement are red flags.

Focus on Behavioral Change The best programs emphasize concrete behavioral changes, not just emotional insights or theoretical understanding. They should address real-world application and provide tools for handling triggers, conflicts, and challenges.

Scripture provides clear guidance for evaluating the quality and authenticity of any program or teaching your husband engages with.

Test Everything Against Truth *"But test everything; hold fast what is good."* (1 Thessalonians 5:21) You have not only the right but the responsibility to evaluate whether his program aligns with biblical principles and produces good fruit.

Look for Genuine Fruit *"By their fruit you will recognize them. Do people pick grapes from thornbushes, or figs from thistles?"* (Matthew 7:16) Quality programs should produce visible positive changes in character, behavior, and relationships over time.

Seek Wise Counsel *"Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed."* (Proverbs 15:22) Don't evaluate his program in isolation. Seek input from mature believers, counselors, or mentors who can provide objective perspectives.

Demand Accountability *"As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another."* (Proverbs 27:17) Biblical change happens in community with accountability. Programs that isolate participants or discourage transparency are suspect.

Prioritize Humility and Growth *"All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness."* (2 Timothy 3:16) Quality programs will incorporate biblical principles and encourage submission to God's Word, not human wisdom alone.

Remember that true transformation comes from God working through people and processes. While programs can provide structure and tools, lasting change requires genuine repentance and submission to Christ.