What does Scripture say about divorce?
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Scripture teaches that God's original design for marriage is permanent unity between one man and one woman (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:6). However, the Bible acknowledges that divorce sometimes occurs due to human sinfulness and hardness of heart. Jesus permits divorce in cases of sexual immorality (Matthew 19:9), and Paul allows for divorce when an unbelieving spouse abandons the marriage (1 Corinthians 7:15). While God hates divorce because it causes deep pain and breaks His design (Malachi 2:16), He doesn't hate divorced people. Scripture consistently shows God's heart for restoration, healing, and redemption even in our most broken situations.
The Full Picture
Understanding what Scripture says about divorce requires looking at both God's original intention and His response to our fallen world. From the beginning, God designed marriage as a covenant relationship reflecting the permanent bond between Christ and His church (Ephesians 5:31-32). When the Pharisees tested Jesus about divorce in Matthew 19, He pointed them back to Genesis: "Haven't you read that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,' and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate."
The reality of our broken world means that marriages sometimes fail despite God's design. Moses permitted divorce certificates because of "hardness of heart" (Matthew 19:8), and Jesus acknowledged this reality while clarifying God's true intention. The Bible presents divorce not as God's will, but as His merciful accommodation to human weakness and sin.
Two clear biblical grounds emerge from New Testament teaching: sexual immorality (porneia) which breaks the covenant bond (Matthew 19:9), and abandonment by an unbelieving spouse (1 Corinthians 7:15). These aren't commands to divorce, but permissions when the marriage covenant has already been fundamentally broken.
God's heart throughout Scripture consistently moves toward restoration and healing. Even when divorce occurs, God's love for individuals remains constant. The same Jesus who upheld marriage's permanence also showed incredible compassion to the woman at the well who had multiple marriages (John 4). Scripture never presents divorce as the unforgivable sin, but always points toward God's redeeming grace.
What's Really Happening
When couples grapple with divorce, they're often experiencing what I call 'moral injury'—the deep wound that comes when our reality conflicts with our values. Christians facing divorce typically struggle with intense guilt, shame, and spiritual confusion because their situation seems to contradict their beliefs about marriage's permanence.
This creates a psychological double-bind: staying in a destructive marriage can cause continued trauma, while leaving feels like betraying their faith. The stress manifests in anxiety, depression, and spiritual disconnection. Many clients tell me they feel abandoned by God or question their worth as Christians.
What's crucial to understand is that recognizing biblical grounds for divorce isn't about finding loopholes—it's about acknowledging that God's mercy extends even into our most broken situations. The Scripture's teaching on divorce actually demonstrates God's compassion, not His harshness. When Jesus permitted divorce for sexual immorality, He was protecting the innocent spouse from continued covenant violation.
Healing begins when individuals understand that God grieves with them over their broken marriage. The goal isn't to make divorce easy, but to provide hope and direction when covenant relationship has been shattered by sin. This biblical framework allows people to make difficult decisions while maintaining their relationship with God, knowing that His love and redemption are available regardless of their marital status.
What Scripture Says
God's Original Design: "Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh" (Genesis 2:24). Marriage reflects God's covenant faithfulness and the relationship between Christ and the church.
Jesus on Divorce: "And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery" (Matthew 19:9). Jesus permits divorce when the covenant has been broken by unfaithfulness.
Paul on Mixed Marriages: "But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace" (1 Corinthians 7:15). Abandonment by an unbeliever releases the Christian spouse.
God's Heart Revealed: "'For I hate divorce,' says the Lord, the God of Israel" (Malachi 2:16). God hates divorce because He sees the pain it causes, not because He rejects divorced people.
Grace for the Broken: "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit" (Psalm 34:18). God's compassion extends to those walking through divorce.
Hope for Restoration: "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him" (Romans 8:28). Even in divorce, God can bring healing and redemption.
These passages show that while God's preference is always restoration and reconciliation, He provides mercy and direction when marriages fail due to covenant-breaking sin.
What To Do Right Now
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Seek wise biblical counsel from a pastor or Christian counselor before making any decisions
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Examine whether your situation involves the biblical grounds of sexual immorality or abandonment
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Pursue restoration and reconciliation if both spouses are willing and the marriage can be made safe
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Protect yourself and children from ongoing abuse while working toward biblical solutions
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Surrender your situation to God in prayer, seeking His will above your own desires
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Remember that God's love for you remains constant regardless of your marital status
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