Change Theory

8 questions

What are the 'stages of change'?

The stages of change is a proven psychological model that maps out how people actually change behavior - and it's crucial for [marriage transformation...

Why do people cycle through stages multiple times?

People cycle through stages multiple times because real change isn't a straight line—it's a spiral. Think of it like climbing a mountain on a winding ...

What predicts successful change vs. relapse?

The biggest predictor of successful change versus relapse isn't willpower or motivation—it's having the right support systems and understanding the di...

What's the difference between motivation and ability?

Motivation is your desire and willingness to change - the 'want to' behind your actions. Ability is having the actual skills, knowledge, and capacity ...

What is 'implementation intention' and why does it help?

Implementation intention is a specific form of planning that creates automatic behavioral responses using "if-then" statements. Instead of vague goals...

What role does identity play in behavior change?

Identity is the engine that drives all lasting behavior change. When you try to change what you do without changing who you are, you're fighting an up...

Why does 'trying harder' often backfire?

When you 'try harder' in your marriage, you typically increase pressure, create performance anxiety, and activate your stress response system. This ma...

What structures support sustainable change?

Sustainable change requires intentional structures that support new patterns long-term. The most effective structures include: **accountability partne...