How Long

8 questions

How long do I wait before giving up?

There's no magic timeline, but here's what I tell every man I work with: **You don't wait to give up - you wait to see if your consistent, intentional...

How long does it take to save a marriage?

The honest answer: saving a [marriage](/answers/becoming-the-man/what-is-the-relationship-between-confession-and-defensiveness) typically takes 6-18 m...

When is it actually over?

It's actually over when one of you has completely shut down emotionally and refuses to engage in any meaningful way toward repair. Not when she says s...

Is there a point of no return?

Here's the truth most marriage experts won't tell you: there's almost never a true point of no return, but there are definitely points where the path ...

How long should I 'stand' for my marriage?

There's no magic timeline for standing for your marriage, but there are clear markers that should guide your decision. I've seen men stand effectively...

She's been unhappy for years — is it too late?

No, it's not too late—but the window is closing, and you need to act differently than you have been. I've seen marriages restored after decades of unh...

We've tried before and failed — is this time different?

Yes, this time can be different—but only if you understand why previous attempts failed and what's changed now. Most couples fail in their first attem...

At what point am I just torturing myself?

You cross from hope into self-torture when you're no longer growing, learning, or changing - you're just enduring. The line is crossed when your effor...